I remember asking a mate after a gig “How was I?” I had just come off stage, full of myself, and I thought I’d aced it.
“Not bad”, he answered, “but you could have been a lot better”.
He then tore my act to bits telling me where I could have introduced a song better, asked why I kept looking at the ceiling when I was trying to remember my words instead of looking at the audience, and why did I sing the last song in G when it would have been better down a tone.
He was just being honest. I asked him and he told me the truth which I hadn’t expected.
Asking for feedback is difficult – and I didn’t get the reaction I expected!
The Mutual Appreciation Society does you no good at all.